I always wanted to have an intimate, sacred and simple wedding in a green open space, attended only by my closest family and friends. In my imagination, me and my husband would do the wedding vows and ceremony using the cultural tradition of our family, followed by a simple lunch/dinner on a long table accompanied by my favorite singer singing all my favorite songs. That's it, that was the only plan I had. Sounds so selfish but hey, it was my dream anyway.
I must say, no matter how simple your wedding dream is, a wedding is still a wedding. It takes a lot of works, coordination, a big heart to face every unexpected turns, anddd money of course! Before the actual preparation of my wedding, every time I shared about my wedding plan to my parents, they didn't seem like objected to my idea. But when it finally came to the preparation time, we argued a lot, like a lot. Fortunately, Agus -my now husband, and his family didn't have any specific requests for the wedding so they just followed any plan that my family and I had. Thank God, one less drama!
What my parents and I argued the most was about how many guests that we needed to invite because it affected how many print invitation, meal, drink, seat, table, souvenir and decorations we needed to have; not to mention the wedding concept, lay out, flow, security, and everything else that we needed to organize. Also, we didn't have a lot of money to hold a big wedding event, so we had to be very wise on how we were going to spend the money. I always wanted my wedding to be simple and intimate, but on the other side my parents have so many relatives to be invited and it wasn't polite if we don't invite them to this very special occasion.
The other thing that I really pushed for my wedding was the sustainability aspects. I didn't want to produce a lot of waste and carbon footprint, so I tried to minimize the use of any single-used items from the attire to the eating utensils. And all of these things somehow conflicted with my parents' idea, and also our budget. And every conflict of course led to another argument lol. We were so short tempered at that moment because we had a very little time to prepare everything. It was only on January 2022 that I told Agus and my parents that I wanted to get married on March 2022 lol. And because all of these tensions, our immune system went drop. My mom finally caught COVID for the first time, and I caught a cold so we had to take a bedrest and break for some time.
Problems were not just arose from different perspectives between our internal family, but also from the external part such as manpower who were very unprofessional. Can't really complaint though as they didn't used to work the way we work, but it was just really really really upsetting! Thankfully, despite all the challenges and the dramas that we faced, we could passed them all and my wedding went very very very well until the rain poured and ruined the rest of the agenda. But that's okay, the ceremony went perfect and that's all I care about, besides they say that rain on a wedding day brings good luck, so amen to that!
Before the wedding, I could only sleep for an hour because we held the wedding at my parent's house so we were very busy finalizing everything. My make up team were already at the house before I even woke up. I then just washed my face and they did all the make up and hair styling from 4 a.m to 8.30 a.m. I didn't know whatever happened outside until they called me to come out to ask for my parent's permission to get married. It was very emotional. I cried a lot, my soft lens fell off couple times and my make up messed up already before I even met my soon-to-be husband and all the guests lol.
After that, I was accompanied by my sisters walking down the aisle to meet Agus, my dad, pak penghulu and two other witnesses (Agus' brother and my dad's friend). When I walked on the aisle all I thought was 'wow this shit is getting real, this is really happening, I'm getting married!' Agus then succeeded in saying the ijab qabul on the first try and so we were officially became a husband and a wife! I was so happy and relieved! Not just because we were finally married, but also because the wedding ceremony went intimate and sacred. It was held at our backyard, our closest family and friends were there, the weather was cloudy, the ambience was warm and nice, and the food was delicious. Just exactly like my dream wedding!
I thought I got everything that I wanted until Agus surprised me with my favorite singer, Teza Sumendra!!! 😭😭😭 It was so unreal to see him at our backyard like what? how? why? He sang 'If I Could Love Again' as he entered the entrance, and it became my favorite song since then 😜 From the beginning, I told Agus that I only wanted Teza for our wedding entertainment, but we couldn't afford him so I had to let him go :( and suddenly he was at my wedding??? This was the best gift that someone ever gave to me! My husband is the best and I couldn't ask for a better man 😭😭😭 Please play this music to get the real experience 😜
To top it off, my other favorite singer, Rayi RAN was came as our guest and performed at my wedding, and we were all singing and dancing together! Oh, what a blast!!! It was literally the best day of my life, my heart was so full and every time I remember about my wedding, it still brings me smile to my face! I was and still am so thankful for everyone who was helping us and being with us throughout our wedding journey. This is the beginning of our new chapter and all of your prayer, help, and blessings mean the world to us, thank you, thank you, thank you!
For the next post, I will share about our effort to keep the wedding waste-less, but for now please enjoy our beautiful wedding pictures taken by our amazing friends at Romant Project, see you!
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